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OLDER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just say no

Listen to your heart....not her.

Robocop is right, it is tough ... but possible. I was married already when I became a an LEO. My wife knew I wanted to but she thought after serving as a CO, I had it out of my system. She did NOT  like the idea at all. We prayed about it together and separately. She finally began to see that this is what God called me to do. Now, she accepts it very well for the most part. There are times, like in June of 2004 when we had three officers killed (nearly a fourth) in a shooting. I guess I say all of this to say that old or young, you and her need to commit to make to it work. Of course, nothing is foolproof but if you commit to make it work on this end, it will help. As a minister, when I do premarital counseling, I tell them that commitment is more important than love.

Bit of advice.....DON't DO IT....just DON't... ANY QUESTIONS??????

I guess I am one of the lucky ones. I have been married to the same woman for coming up on 36 years this July 22, five children , three boys, two girls , in that order, four grandchildren all boys and a fifth on the way in September. My wife is a Police Officers daughter so she had a head start on the mind set that is needed for a woman to know that when her husband goes out to work , he may never return , or he may return like I did, in the back of an ambulance. I worked for a small department of 21 men and just over 13,000 populous. I was injured while making an arrest , herniating L-4 and L-5 discs in different directions, making surgery impossible. That was in 1984. I regained my ability to do just about everything , but no lifting , jogging , no return to Police Work. Our department contract states , either full duty or no duty, nothing in between. As you can well imagine , this put a great strain on the family life. Many times we both felt like giving up and going our own ways. I was the most irritable Son of a bitch for the first ten years of this retirement. My Wife put up with me during this period of time. She could have walked at any time but did not. IF ITS MENT TO BE , ITS MENT TO BE , BUT BEWARE , MOST WOMEN HAVE A HARD TIME WITH THE STRAIN. YOU MUST LAY IT ALL OUT FOR HER , THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY. AND REMIND HER THAT SHE IS NOT ONLY MARYING YOU BUT YOUR JOB AND YOUR LIFESTYLE. NO POT SMOKING FRIENDS ANY MORE. We went for the first three years of marriage without having children , just to see if we could tolerate each other . That way no children , not much of a problem . You have to make the choice along with her as to weather you are both cut out for the stress of the job. What ever your choice , Best of Luck .

Have you heard the old saying don't buy the cow if you get the milk for free? try and find a place to get the milk, because if it does not work you won't still be paying for it.

bamafever86 says ...

I am 21 about to be 22 and I think that you should stay single as long as possible! I am not ready for someone to be ordering me around like I still live at mommas house...lol.

BRO.....they can mess things up soooooooooooo bad your own MAMMA won't let you back in the house........LOL and LMAO...

Make sure you tell your prospective wife about your job.  Tell her everything she will need to know, so she has little to no questions about it.  Let her know what to expect as far as how stressful and time consuming it can be.  Make sure she knows your committment to doing your duty and that if you get the call, you have to go.  Make sure that she knows that your committment to your duty isn't in competition with your committment to her.  Some people don't understand that there is a difference between the two.  She should respect the fact that you take your duty seriously and that it makes you who you are.  If she can't hack it, or you have any misgivings about getting married, don't do it.  Don't rush into it. 

Definitely older!!!  I'm 27 and have been a Police Officer for 6 years and am still not ready!!! 

OLD, OLDER, OLDEST!  NEXT QUESTION!

Awwww... COMON GUYS!!! Stop trying to scare the lad!  ROFL!!!!

Age does not matter. If you love the person and think you can't live without him/her then get married.

 Wait! For about 10 years if she is still around, she really loves you.  

Stay single.

Some women can't handle being married to a police officer. Ask my ex-wife about it.