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Tough during the holidays
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Posted about 1 year ago I really miss my friend. We would spend a lot of time together during the holidays. It will be another tough year. But, together with his fiance and my wife, we will get through it. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Thanks for the invite. I'm sorry for your loss. Don't know how long it has been since your friend was taken from you but for what it's worth keep him close to you and allow him to watch over you. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Thank you. His EOW is 5-4-05. He is with me every day. His birthday just passed so it is especially hard right now. We worked together for a while and we got into some serious stuff together. He was a good cop. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Willaim, You will never get over that feeling of loss . I have a few friends on a different wall (The Wall). That was many years ago. Each time I see the traveling wall I stop and have a chat with my friends. My wife understands as her cousin is on the Wall. She allows me my time with each of my friends. I talk with them of the good times and remember what they mean to me. It hurts less each year but it always hurts. It takes a while but it will turn into a good thing for you eventually. Each in his own time. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Thanks for the kind words. I am sorry for the losses you have suffered. I do take my time with him. When I was there in D.C. for the memorial last year, I made a rubbing of his name from the wall. I cary that with me in my patrol car so he is always with me and we can always have our time. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Like Nikk, I know how it feels and I have friends on both walls, as many of us do. I visited my father's grave on the 11th of this month, his birthday. Cried like a baby, I did. It's been 15 years since I lost him. I see him in so many faces almost daily out there. It's amazing how good I feel when I see someone else with one of his facial expressions or quirks. It's almost like he is smiling back at me through them. Look for your friend in those who are living today. You may be surprised what you find. My father was the best man a man could be. I am hoping my children one day say that about me. My condolences, Deputy, for your loss and your missing friendship. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago nikkochey is right, you never get over that feeling...and I think that's a good thing. My partner and best friend was killed in 1992, and I still haven't gotten over losing him, although I know he's here with me every day. Remember the good times, remember his face, his laugh...and the love and respect you had for each other. There's and old saying that goes something like "He that you have loved and lost is no longer where you are....he is now WHERE EVER you are" and I truly believe that. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here for you. Don't sweat the small stuff....you'll dehydrate |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Thank you so much. I new this group would be a good idea. You brought up an old saying, and I wanted share one that has stuck with me. I am sure you have all heard it before. " It is not how thry died that made them heroes, it is how they lived. " That really sums up my friend Kieth. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago This group is an excellent idea! No-one truly understands what it's like unless they have been thru the same loss and feelings. I couldn't begin to understand what a spouse, parent etc goes thru, and would never claim to know. I do however, know what it feels like to lose your best friend...and to lose other friends. I also know what it's like to stand at the Memorial and see their names engraved there...and to have an unknown brother or sister in blue come up and give me a hug because I needed one. I wish I could pass some of those hugs on to you right now, as they are truly healing. Don't sweat the small stuff....you'll dehydrate |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Thank you. I am sorry for your loss. When I was at the memorial during police week, it was the most powerful thing I ever witnessed. Every cop should go at least once. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago Deputy421 said: I am sorry for our loss. Always remember what he did and what he stood for. He would always want you and every officer to carry on where he left off. It will make each one of us only stronger to carry on. May God bless him as he guides us through our tough times, on and off the job. It is said we never get over the grief of a close loss, we just get through it until the next time. Hang in there my friend. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago God bless the families and co workers of our fallen brothers from Palm Beach County Sheriff's Department, FL. May you rest in peace my brothers. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago It is December 1st, and my wife and I are preparing our trip home to SC for the holidays on the 14th. I plan to drive out to visit Kieth on the 18th. It will be really hard even though it has been 2 years already. I miss him every day. I hope all of you have a easier time then me dealing with your loss. It is really helpful to talk to people about it that understand. My wife and I don't talk about it much. She took it really hard as she loved Kieth also. I also think it really brought home the reality of what could happen to me. Especially since he was killed in my district while my shift was working. Thank you guys for your words. |
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| Posted about 1 year ago In 32 years on the job I still find it hard to believe that I know thirteen men whose names appear on "The Wall" in judiciary square. One of those men was an old partner of mine from the 70's who was LODD in 1989. This time of year I think about all of them and pray that they are at peace along with their families. Merry Christmas everyone and may God watch over you always. |
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| Posted 12 months ago it has not been a year yet since i lost a good friend and co-worker. As Christmas is approaching and i see his two young children...it breaks my heart. They are so confused. They just dont understand. It really makes me wonder if this job is worth it. Dave drown in the Ohio River after chasing a suspect in the water. Yes...I know that he should have never chased him into the water, but you just had to know Dave. He was an ex-marine and was in top physical condition. There was alot of controversy over the incident because we arrested the subject that he was chasing for involuntary manslaughter. The media gave us a beating and i cant help but think that his children will look back someday and wonder why their dad took the chance of getting hurt over staying with them for the rest of his life. Say an extra prayer for Dave's wife, children, co-workers and me. |
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| Posted 12 months ago cwallace said: I will pray for you and Dave's family. I wish I could offer some sort of advice, but that would be inappropriate. All I can say is, my wife asked me one time why I take so many risks on the job when I know she is at home waiting on me. I told her, this is my job. This is what I was meant to do. Whether I am right or wrong, I am not sure. But I told her when I am out there, and I am in the !@it, I do not think of her. I am focused on eliminating the threat, or saving the innocent or can't save themselves. I told her that when the day comes, that I think about her before making my decision to shoot, chase, fight, or whatever, then I will be killed. There is not enough time to put those type of thoughts in my mind when I am in the !@it. My best friend was killed while chasing an assault suspect. His fiance asked me why was he chasing him for assault? I tiold her that he was the only officer close by. And he did not chase the suspect on the interstate, we would never have caught him. And there would have been a victim who would not have closure. A victim who would not be able to face their attacker. A victim who would be afraid and looking over there shoulder the rest of their life wondering if he would come back. A victim would have no confidence in Law Enforcement. And that would be a true tragedy. She understands what Kieth did and why. Maybee someday his children will understand why their father sacrificed himself. But they need time to understand he is gone. We do it not becuase we have to, but because we want to. My favorite saying is, " It is not how these officers died that made them heroes, it is how they lived. " I will be prayingh for you and Dave's family. I hope some of this helps. Merry Christmas my brother. Let us know if you need to talk about anything. |
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| Posted 11 months ago My deep condolences for everyone who has lost a family member or close friend who was a LEO. I lost my dad who was in enforcement for over 41+ years,he had 4 strokes and the stress of Hurricane Katrina was too much for him . My 1st cousin was killed in the line of duty at age 34 in 1996. The holidays are the worst. Being retired makes me feel even pushed away more from them. God bless all of you and may He protect those who protect us. Those of us who are from law enforcement families feel the pain of loss so deeply, I do understand. |